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The 3-Year “Gl-itch”

March 19, 2011

Tune in tonight  (Monday, March 21 at 5:45 p.m.) for my interview on TVFox29 . The topic is relationships and the 3-Year Glitch.  American marriages are fast-tracking what used to be known as the 7-Year Itch,  down to about three years.  The  phrase “7-Year Itch” was immortalized  by the 1955 Billy Wilder film, starring Marilyn Monroe.  The phrase came to represent a lull in marriage when husbands were more vulnerable to the wiles of a Monroe temptress (sorry ladies this was the 50’s and Brad Pitt wasn’t on the scene yet).  Some think that the phrase represents the average number of years that couples stay married. There are lots of statistics on divorce out there, but here are the facts: It only takes 3-5 years to wreck a marriage–that’s if the occupants are hot-heads. The next spike in divorce occurs at years 18-20, when the train’s been off the tracks for too long, and one or both partners are worn out from an ongoing marital problem.

What about lulls? There are  lulls in marriage, at years 4 and  8. Lull Year #4 is just life.  The honeymoon’s over, and routine has taken the place of mad passion. Lull Year #8: New roles as parents. Nothing like 700 hours of sleep deprivation in the first year of a child’s life for a passion-killer. These lulls aren’t necessarily from problems, but sometimes simple BOREDOM. Boredom leads to niggling complaints such as:

1. You’ve gained weight.

2. You left your dirty socks and underwear on the floor.

3. More snoring, no romance, less sex.

4.More drinking.

5. In-law problems.

WHAT TO DO?

Remember what you did in courtship:

1. PAY ATTENTION to your partner. HANG-UP, GET OFF-LINE, and spend more than the average 12 minutes of interacting a day.

2. Pay compliments.

3. Try something new. Take turns being responsible for fun.

4. Make a date night.

And remember…itches pass if you don’t scratch.

One Comment leave one →
  1. March 19, 2011 12:55 am

    grea tpost..really enjoyed your take on the problem with marriage ..Eliza Keating

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